Whats the definition of Friendship?
Friendship is the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring all right out just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful friendly hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping and, with a breath of comfort, blow the rest away.by, Dinah Mulock Craik, 1859
so i guess at the end of the day, friends are not friends after all.
some will be, some will not be.
keeping that is worth, and blowing the rest away.
i read shalinda's blog.
and she said there, that her dad is together with this group of friends consisting 6 of them, for like 30 years and still counting. and wondering what they went through.
that, left me thinking.
what they went through, why did they not give up on this friendship they hold?
and, what made them stay together?
like that Dinah said, like, did they actually have a group of more than 6 of them?
then, slowly dropping and blowing away those who are not worthy of the friendship??
as it's true that, men and woman are different (as quoted from shalin's blog)
but is it possible for woman to hold that same of a friendship as guys do?
like, though we're different, but why can't woman be different from other woman. keeping the friendship that each other holds.
treasure them, never to let go of it, knowing that 'hey. we love each other. lets stay together. through thick and thin'
woman can hold that too right?
but well, i believe we can.
but it is whether we want to.
i'm not here not to like, point fingers at anyone.
everyone in this words, got really different thinking,
how each one sift their friends out.some worth the keep, some don't.some see it's worth the keep now, some time later, sift them away.some don't wanna keep any friends, some wants to keep all.some fades away to the back, some shine forward.some carry on with life, some hangs on with the past.
i was just thinking about this for the past 2 nights.
and stumbled upon the post shalin wrote.
i think to myself.
if a friend truly loves you.
he/she will want the best for you.
he/she will never turn his/her back against you.
as i'm speaking about friends.
a few of my friends names, just like, POP into my head.
(in random order)Les. P., Sayang, Milkshake, BDP, Kakee, One Decade, Shalin, Sophia, Kerrie, Madeline, Jasmine, Cherie, Demelza.
we all know each other for awhile now.
some years some months.
then i start to think.
worth the keep, or not worth the keep.
it's soo soo soo hard.
because all i think of is KEEP KEEP KEEEEEP!
cause we've been together for a long time.
though troubles and problems have like, face EVERY single one of us before.
have faced every single one of my friends listed, problems i face with them, problems they face with me.
but well, i felt some problems, draw this friendship tighter, draws this friendship more worthy to keep. knowing that problems did not stop the friendship.
but, there's bound to be like, friendship which was broken.
up till now, i feel like, if whoever can break that friendship, i can't.
cause, problems are the one that brings people closer together.
but well, i've always thought that way.
until i was proven wrong myself.
so what now?
i could have this really strong friendship with, my kakee
and suddenly, over a problem, we break this friendship.
but to me, it's the problem which draws us closer to each other.
okay, now you say be thinking and saying, 'NOT EVERYONE IS LIKE YOU IDIOT'
yeah, i know.
everyone is different, everyone have their own mind of thinking. trueeeeee.
but well, have you ever get this feeling like, WHY CAN'T PEOPLE SEE FORM WHERE I'M SEEING!
yeah, if you get what i mean. you ehh, get what i mean.
i can't expect everyone to see the samee thing as i see.
so i guess, thats why, in my life, friends comes and friends goes.
i'm not gonna be all like, I'VE GOT A 100% PERFECT LIFE and all.
cause, please, i don't.
so lets just face this reality that no ones life is 100% perfect.
but if you think yours is, good for you, i respect that.
well, i'll never say i've got a 100% perfect life.
cause, honestly, i don't.
and i don't want to pretend that i have.
cause it will look fake.
and i wanna be real, not fake.
yes, so my friends comes, and they go too!
i won't say all goes, but well, a number of them.
but hey, life don't stop for me right?
i'll get down and all, yup! true.
but well, i gotta get over it.
i am not gonna miss you out the fun things in life just cause i'm down.
so just buck up, pull myself together.
carry on with life.
and just be a happy person.
be contended with what you have.
if you've got a million friends, be contended.
if you've got 1 friend, be contended.
don't ever be greedy.
don't let greed take over your true self.
i wanna live my life as plain and as simple as possible.
if i'm rich, good for me.
if i'm poor, do something about it, unless i wanna stay being poor.
am i contended being poor?
so, work on it, do something.
but never be greedy.
i realise i am like, side tracking alot.
okay. back to peng you.
i'm just gonna live my life to the fullest everyyyyyyday.
i am gonna feel contended about the friends i've got!
friends will not necessarily always be friends.
but well, there rare new friends.
and all i can say is, be wise about your friends.
don't let it all out, unless you know it's time too.
cause, when one regret man, it sucks.
okay, i say again.
this post is purely, not to offend anyone.
it is 100% my own opinion.
love it or hate it.
up to you(:
love me or hate me?
up to you too(:
oh yah, and, what keeps a TRUE friendship together?
i say love.